Quick Answer
The honest answer on coming out to children: care that treats your identity as a given and does the deeper work from there. Our clinicians begin with a clear, people-first picture of what you’re carrying and shape the work around you, in person in LA or by telehealth statewide.
Key Takeaways
- The most helpful care for coming out to children is care that treats your identity as a given and does the deeper work from there.
- This is real therapy — it can challenge you, but it never asks you to be someone you’re not.
- Care is people-first and non-diagnostic to begin; you don’t need a label to start.
- Sessions run in person at our Mid-Wilshire office or by secure telehealth across California.
- The first step is a free, no-pressure 20-minute consultation.
01A closer look at coming out to children
If you’re asking about coming out to children, you’re not alone — and the honest answer is that it deserves more than a quick definition. At Angeles Psychology Group, we approach coming out to children through care that treats your identity as a given and does the deeper work from there, which means we don’t rush to label it before we understand it. You can see how this fits our broader approach in Lgbtqia.
Depth-oriented care means your orientation and gender are the ground the work stands on, not the thing being treated. That framing matters here, because coming out to children rarely lives on the surface. Working with Parent child relationship tends to matter more than any single technique.
Depth-oriented care. Depth-oriented care means your orientation and gender are the ground the work stands on, not the thing being treated.
02What genuinely helpful care looks like
In practice, genuinely helpful care here is observable, not abstract. It looks like a clinician who uses your language for your own life, who understands context rather than assuming it, and who is honest about what they do and don’t know. APA LGBTQ+ resources describes this kind of care as competence — something you can expect, not hope for.
Because Angeles Psychology Group is a coordinated, depth-oriented practice, the work can connect across Trauma with your consent, so the whole picture stays in view. Most people begin with individual work and adjust from there — the pace is always yours.
Roots, not labels
We work beneath the symptom to what’s actually driving it, without erasing who you are.
People-first
You’re met as a whole person, not reduced to a diagnosis or a protocol.
In person or online
The same depth-oriented care at our Mid-Wilshire office or by secure telehealth.
Wondering whether this fits your situation? A free 20-minute consultation is a low-pressure place to find out.
Book a Free Consultation03A low-pressure first step
Starting is low-pressure and in your control. You book a free, 20-minute consultation, talk with a clinician about what brings you in, and together decide what fits — no obligation, and no diagnosis required to begin. Sessions are in person at our Mid-Wilshire office or by secure telehealth across California.
The practice is private-pay, with superbills provided for out-of-network reimbursement, and fees are explained clearly before you commit. Whatever brought you here, you’ll be met as a whole person.
Frequently Asked Questions
What’s the short answer to ‘how to come out to my kids’?
The honest answer on coming out to children: care that treats your identity as a given and does the deeper work from there. Our clinicians begin with a clear, people-first picture of what you’re carrying and shape the work around you, in person in LA or by telehealth statewide.
Is this the same as regular therapy?
Yes — it’s real psychotherapy, delivered through care that treats your identity as a given and does the deeper work from there. It can still challenge you; it simply doesn’t do so by questioning who you are.
Do I need a diagnosis to start?
No. Care is people-first and non-diagnostic to begin. You can start with a free consultation and figure out fit before committing. You might also explore Lgbtqia.
How do I get started?
A free, 20-minute consultation is the simplest first step — in person in Los Angeles or by secure telehealth across California. Research suggests fit between you and your therapist is one of the strongest predictors of whether therapy helps.
About this page
This page reflects the practice of Angeles Psychology Group, a depth-oriented, affirming psychology practice in Los Angeles founded by Dr. Neil Schierholz, PsyD (PSY25154). Angeles Psychology Group provides psychotherapy and does not prescribe medication; where medication is relevant, care is coordinated with a client’s own prescriber. Claims about psychotherapy are framed as research suggests and cited to primary sources.
Reviewed by Dr. Neil Schierholz, PsyD. Last updated June 2026.